I really need non-intersex trans people to be way better allies to intersex people, especially intersex trans people. I need you to stop assuming that intersex = trans, that intersex = third sex or that intersex = automatically nonbinary—you need to understand that intersex people can be cis or trans too. I need you to stop saying that you wish you were intersex or you want to “transition to intersex”, which is completely disrespectful of a group of people who face incredible medical abuse and oppression. I need you to stop subscribing to the idea that intersex people (or anyone else for that matter) can neatly fit into CAMAB and CAFAB boxes and that we must be one or the other. I need you to stop using our existence as a “gotcha” or an exception to the idea that there are only two genders/sexes biologically—do not use our existence to “stump” transphobes. I need you to understand that intersexism and transphobia/-misogyny can be very similar but also very different, and that there is absolutely overlap, especially for those of us who experience both. I need you to be a better ally to me as an intersex trans person, to other intersex trans people, and even, yes, to intersex cis people.